Ya know I spent so many years trying to please everyone else.
Don’t get me wrong, I really enjoy making others happy but there’s a BIG difference…
It’s taken me almost 50 years to understand the difference, and that you can’t please everyone.
Most of the time you can momentarily please some, but not everyone is going to be pleased by the little things you do for them. In fact, more often they won’t even notice.
By trying to hard to go out of your way to please others, your getting it wrong. When we do something out of the kindness of our hearts looking for accolades, your not doing it for the blessing that’s in your act of kindness.
I don’t know if it’s because I’ll be 50 this year (wow surreal) or that it’s what my parents always told me that “it comes with wisdom Debbie “ which I personally believe is why I feel a shift. I’ve grown up and with every experience I obtain a beautiful piece of wisdom!
2021 I made a resolution of sorts to myself. I said “THIS is the year of my NO!”
I’ve always said yes to others even when it compromised my plan. When I woke up on January 1,2021 my strength and my LOVE for Debbie came rushing in and I am not looking back!
Saying NO to those you love is so hard, but saying NO to yourself is deadly….
My best friend Janine and I had plans that when we turn 50 we’d go on a 50th cruise together,
and as I write this I still get overcome with tears and grief, when she died in April of 2018, my other half was gone. And around her birthday last year(July 18) her sister and decided WE are going to celebrate 50 together, no cruises since Covid but together we will celebrate, chill and remember J9(my 40 year nickname for her) in the Bahamas this spring.
So if you’ve gotten this far thank you and one day you’ll understand that this time I have to tell you NO ❤️
Mask up so others can live to see another day